I met Nancy Dome through friends back when I lived in San Diego, before moving to Japan. In sort of a weird coincidence she lived in Sonoma and Glen Ellen for a while, and I think now she is living in Montana with her husband. I was pleased to be able to catch up with her via this new book that she has written.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The book\u2019s cover says that we\u2019re going to talk about race, and certainly that seems to be a timely topic in America. She introduces a model of communication, called Recognize-Interrupt-Repair, and then explains how it can work to approach tough conversations. Through examples from her own life and her consulting work she illustrates how the model can help talk about not only racial topics but other delicate topics as well. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This book seems like a positive step towards meaningful dialogue, and hopefully it will help people who read it, and also create a less combative atmosphere out there. There was a lot of terms that I don\u2019t hear very often – \u201ctriggered\u201d, \u201cPC\u201d, \u201cpeople of color\u201d, and \u201ccritical race theory\u201d, and these are discussed almost without explanation, so I assume they are common expressions in the USA currently. Nancy\u2019s personal history comes out (often) through the stories and examples, and she is clearly an intelligent and thoughtful person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If I had any constructive criticism it would be that the organization of each chapter seemed a little scattered. The writing occasionally seemed to spend too much time on her personal experiences and not enough time on how her system could work for the reader. I was also a little thrown off by the conspicuous use of the trademark logo for a few terms that she has trademarked. It lent the book a corporate\/profit-driven\/business-oriented note that didn\u2019t seem to match with the overall positive\/friendly\/understanding vibe of the book.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But overall this was a pleasant book to read and I hope that by using her method I will be able to stop and think a little more next time something comes up that bothers me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Next I\u2019m reading All the Pretty Horses by Cormac McCarthy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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